“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.”
So I’m feeling a lot of positive energy from all the love I got about reaching a major milestone in my life yesterday, so I wanted to jot down a few lessons I’ve learned on the journey thus far, and hope that it inspires you to reach your goals as well. I know this is coming in the middle of my series on How I Lost 65 Pounds in Less than 6 Months, but it will conclude on Monday as planned. Think of this as just a little bonus insight haha. The last seven months have been a time of extreme learning for me, and I felt like it would be selfish of me not to pass along what I have been learning, so hopefully something in this post helps you achieve your goals, because what I’m learning through weight loss is that the process for goal achieving is the same or similar for all areas of our lives. Dang, goal setting…that might be a good topic for the next series of blog posts. What do you think about that?
1. Success Doesn’t Happen on an Island. You don’t succeed alone. It takes a team of people to help you achieve your goals. And, if you do succeed alone, what fun is that? The internet is doing crazy stuff to people, making our in person communication much less meaningful. Those personal interactions are becoming more superficial and its becoming more of a risk to be genuine and vulnerable with others. This is dangerous. If you really want to change something in your life, get other people to help you. The start to my journey was Kyle Morrow calling me out. He said something to the effect of, “I have known you for 10 years, and in that time you have talked about losing weight countless times, either get on stickk.com and really do it, or stop talking about it.” He was right. And, I probably wouldn’t have started if he hadn’t of called me out. When I reached my goal, Rhyan Sonis called me on the phone when he saw the Facebook post, maybe more excited than I was. He has been my sprinting partner for the past 7 weeks, and one of my closest friends along the way, so he was invested in the process as well. Matt Espinoza was checking my food log online every day, helping me to refine the process and calling me out when I need it. The list goes on and on. And, there has been a quote resonating with me the past few weeks, “A rising tide lifts all boats”. The success I’m having is helping other people on their journey as I’m still being helped on mine. This positive effect is contagious. And, honestly the most important thing that has helped me in my community to support my weight loss is the weekly Achievers Group I’m in. It’s not a rocket science secret formula. We meet, talk about our goals and progress, give each other feedback that helps and check in with each other. However, the results are incredible. Why more people don’t do this is mind boggling to me, but as Rhyan said today, “It’s uncomfortable. That’s why people don’t do it.” He’s right. That leads me to my next point.
2. Success Doesn’t Happen in Your Comfort Zone. Actually, that might not be totally accurate. I felt like in certain areas of my life I was successful when I spent 100% of my time in my comfort zone. However, that might have been because I didn’t really understand what success was. My life is immeasurably better than it was, as I have been pushed to get out of my comfort zone. This is a painful process. It’s not easy, it’s not fun. Honestly, there is nothing enjoyable about it in the moment, but it is where growth happens. In the movie finding Joe, Brian Johnson, says that just like any muscle in our body, our comfort zone must be exercised. And as we take these small risks, our comfort zone expands and allows us to take bigger risks. Again, the Achievers Group I’m in has really helped me with this. If I try to make excuses or get out of taking risks, they are there to call me out and encourage me to be brave. Awesome!
3. Success is Never Perfect. I screwed up a lot during the past 7 months…and I still came in under my goal weight. When you’re changing your life, it’s not going to be perfect. You’re going to mess up and go back to bad habits, or not do something you should. But, if you see that as part of the process, and work to get better from there, it’s not fatal. I sabotaged myself a lot in previous weight loss attempts. I would screw up and think I wasn’t “strong willed enough” to lose weight and just give up. I was easier on myself this time. If I screwed up, I would try and figure out if I did something that might have caused the mess up, and then I just moved on. Now, this doesn’t give me or you a license to not follow through on our commitments to ourselves, but it does mean that when we’re human and mess up, that we don’t have to beat ourselves up over it. I wasn’t perfect over the last 7 months, it wasn’t pretty, but I still got there. And, another thing that goes along with this is that I would mentally lose focus A LOT. I would get impatient with the weight loss. I would feel like I was depriving myself. I would wonder if the effort was worth it. I would think it was easier just being fat. I had all kinds of crazy thoughts like that. None of which are helpful or right. And, you know what? I still made it. Mostly because of step 1, but I made it. Success is never perfect, but if you’re constantly moving forward, good things will happen.
I guess I could have really shortened the post by saying it this way:
1. Surround yourself with people that support your goals and keep you accountable.
2. Take risks
3. Learn and refine your process.
What kind of commitment are you willing to make today to improve your life? Leave a comment as a way to publicly state what you’re committing to!